Advice for Teenage Girls

Advice for Teen Girls

Fun and Enjoyable Songs

Here is a great empowering 2014 song for girls. It is Roar by Katy Perry. But this version is sung by 10 year old Mariangeli so listen to this first. Latest News: California Gurls (by Katy Perry) number one song in America in June 2010. Both of Katy's parents were pastors and she grew up listening to Christian Music only.  Katy Perry was singing gospel music. Then Katy heard Alanis Morisette and everything changed. California Gurls is like her rebelling against the above. Then 2 young women made their Minnesota version of it called Minnesota Gurls. Here is the professional high quality California Gurls.

My friend Jen, 17 years old, does not like popular songs. She likes Indie music. Here is what she says about the above song, in case you do not like it:

I think I'm going to stab rusty nails into my ears. That stupid California song you are scarishly in love with is haunting my mind....it's like that banana phone song....it WILL NOT leave my head and is driving me insane xD hGSGSAAAHHJG GAAAAHHHH!!!

Would you please kindly assist me in smashing my head with a sledgehammer until I discontinue breathing? x) I didn't have a choice but TO listen because it was on the radio...and then it came on again.

Songs in other languages do not become hits in America, but there are exceptions. Here is Psy in Gangnum Style at a summer concert in Korea. The teens in this look like they are having a great deal of fun.

Inspiration for All Teens

Latest News: May 31, 2010. You are going to love this. I never say that since I do not know that. But teens love this lecturer. He makes them cry! Watching it will increase your self-esteem and self-confidence. You have to see him and decide for yourself. But he is not like any lecturer that you have ever seen before. I am tempted to tell you the surprise but I trust you to start watching it and you will see the big surprise right away. So watch this short video now and see if he inspires you or not. Let me know if he does not inspire you. Or you can let me know if he makes you cry!

Movie Suggestions

It is nice to be important, but it is more important to be nice. First is a suggestion from me about advice for teen girls. All girls, teenage girls, teen girls and young women should watch the movie, Whale Rider. It is the most empowering movie for girls [empower-- 1) to give power or authority to 2) to give ability to]. You can show it at a slumber party. It is about a village in New Zealand that has always had a male chief. The only person in line to become chief is a girl.

But the old chief wants a male chief so he starts training the boys in the village and the best one will become chief. But the girl knows that she should be the next chief and she has the blood of all the previous chiefs running through her veins. It has the best ending in a movie ever. You will never guess the ending.

More advice for teen girls would be after you watch that, you can get the movie, Proof, with Gwenneth Paltrow. In it, her father is the leading math genius in the world but is going senile. But he tries to pass on that genius to his daughter. Here is a great movie I just saw. Make sure to watch it. It is called A Little Princess (1995). It explains why all girls are princesses.

Short Story

Here is a story that teaches you about men. I was driving a taxi cab in center city Philadelphia. I saw a young woman hailing my cab. She was dressed nicely, like she were at a prom and she was crying. When I pulled up to her, she did not get in but told me that she did not have any money and so could I take her home and then she will go up to her apartment and bring down the money to me. Well I had heard that story before, so I told her to drop dead. No, I am just kidding. I told her that was fine.

She was not at a prom but at a wedding. Her boyfriend gave her a ride to the wedding. She left her pocketbook with her keys and money in his car. After the wedding, they got into an argument and her boyfriend said to her, "I am going home without you. Let's see you get home without any money." She lived in an expensive apartment building with a desk person that could let her into her apartment without her key.

When we got to her apartment I told her that I did not want her to think that all guys are like her boyfriend so the cab ride is free of charge. She said that she really wanted to pay me since I was so nice to her. She came down with the money and paid me. I gave her my card and asked her to read the top of it out loud. She read, "Even in your darkest hour, I will not abandon you."

Professional Advice

This great advice for teen girls comes from the book, Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls (Copyright 1994) by Mary Pipher Ph.D. She is a psychologist that only works with adolescent (between puberty and adult) girls. This book was a #1 New York Times best seller. So this is expert advice for teen girls. The back cover says "Why are more adolescent girls prey to depression, eating disorders, addictions and suicide attempts than ever before? According to Dr. Mary Pipher...we live  in a...'girl poisoning' culture." She says that it is worse than ever before.


Ophelia is a character from Shakespeare's Hamlet. As a girl she is happy and free.  She falls in love with Hamlet and he later rejects her and she goes mad with grief. Here are more quotes from this book. "Girls know they are losing themselves. One girl said 'Everything good in me died in Junior High.'" "I encourage girls to observe our culture with the eyes of an anthropologist in a strange new society."

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"Life in the 1990s is so stressful that all girls need predictable ways to calm themselves. If they don't have positive ways such as exercise [like yoga], reading, hobbies or meditation, they will have negative ways such as eating, drinking, drugs or self-mutilation (cutting)." More on this at bottom of page.

"Validation" is being recognized as someone that is a valuable person. "Girls...are also vulnerable to depression if they happen to be in an environment where they are not validated. I teach them to look within themselves for validation." "...resisting the cultural pressure to become the object of male experience.... Gloria Steinem calls it 'healthy rebellion.' "

"I encourage girls to find some ways to help people on a regular basis. Volunteer work, good deeds for neighbors and political action help girls move into a larger world." "Camps, foreign exchange student programs and long summers with far away relatives are great opportunities for growth."

"Girls do better in cooperative environments and in all-girl math and science classes." The author of School Girls suggests all-girl schools. On another page of this website is "What is Enlightenment." It has info from the book, Authentic Happiness by Dr. Seligman. The best advice for teen girls would to be happier. I just made up this saying. To avoid hurting yourself, avoid hurting others.

Here is what Dr. Mary Pipher says about that book. "Seligman takes the best, most recent science in psychology and applies it to our oldest, most basic human qualities: How can we be happy? And how can we be good? His book is groundbreaking, heart-lifting, and most important, deeply useful." The webpage What is Enlightenment will also help to validate you, increase your self-esteem and self confidence.

Also see (Natural Healing) with suggestions on diet and lifestyle that can greatly help with mental issues (like depression) and awesome short stories to inspire and uplift people with mental challenges. The Links page has a 3rd link, Helpguide, with expert advice on eating disorders. There is more advice for teen girls after the part on cutting for cutters.

A teenage actress was being interviewed by a magazine. She said that she had seen Tom Cruise in movies and had imagined being married to him. She had figured that she would be married to him by now so apparently her imagination had gotten the better of her. Her name is Katie Holmes and she did marry Tom Cruise when she was in her 20s. He proposed to her on the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris, France.

I found this article: 32 Amazing Online Resources To Help Empower Girls

What Has Gone Wrong and How to Fix It (This Advice is Also Good for Boys)

In America and probably the rest of the Western Society, there is a problem with lack of self-esteem. This is explained in the book, The Continuum Concept (original copyright 1975 by Jean Liedloff). It tells the right way to raise infants and children. See the Links page for more on this book and a link to their website. In the movie, Karate Kid, Miyagi says that there are no bad students, only bad teachers. I say that there are no bad children, only bad parents.

Sometimes horrible criminals like mass murderers and rapists will have terrible parents. Then other times they will have normal parents. The book mentioned above explains how good parents can really be terrible parents without them or anyone knowing it. Many who have read this book after being 'good' parents get very depressed realizing that they raised their kids so badly.

The way that children in Western society are raised comes from Nazi Germany. Adolf Hitler was an absolute dictator. What is a dictator? One who dictates. The definition of dictate is to issue as an order or to impose, pronounce or specify authoritatively. Does this sound familiar? Your parents are the absolute dictators of you when you are growing up. That is generally speaking. My saying is that all rules have exceptions, except some.

The parent says "Jump" and the child says "How high?" The bible even teaches that if you spare the rod, you spoil the child. Nazis worshiped the bible. If your parents teach you religion then you have them dictating to you and God commanding you. In fact, one commandment of God is to honor your father and mother. This bible was written by adults, not children. Now you have parents and God that can punish you if you do not do what they want you to do. It is no wonder that so many children want to kill themselves. My blog tells about a teenage girl that tried it.

In The Continuum Concept it tells how children have been raised the same way for tens of thousands of year by a village. The Christians would call these people "Godless Savages" (unlike Nazis, the Ku Klux Klan and Muslim terrorists that all believe in God). This creates resistance to the teachings in this book. The main part is how they raise infants that turns them into great children. The 8 year old girls in this village are better at taking care of infants than Western mothers are.

Read the book or website for more on this foundation the kids get as babies (brief description). These kids do not fight or argue with each other. Also here is the big difference. The parents never, ever tell the children what to do. They do not dictate like a dictator. They do not say "Go do your homework!" The children always make the choice and of what they want to do. Because of how they were raised as babies, they are eager to help out. The children have no reason to ever say to their parents, "I hate you!"

Now what happens to kids raised like this? They do not become rapists and murderers. By the way, one of the kids at Columbine High School massacre left a video saying that he was going to kill all these students to get back at his parents. Now whenever these townspeople see these parents, they think how they created a monster. These adults brought up the right way are happy, fun loving adults. They are not like the miserable adults in our society. Have you heard of road rage?

There is an example in the book of the village adults and Western adults working together. They are carrying the canoes through the woods which is hard work avoiding all the trees. The Western adults are extremely stressed out by this. The village adults are having lots of fun like little kids. Have you ever heard anyone dictate the command Grow up!

Some people would say that the author of this is not an expert on children since she is a psychologist with no children. But now this concept is supported by an MD that is a Christian and a pediatrician (Dr. Sears).  He and his wife (a Registered Nurse) have written The Baby Book. Two of their children are MDs and support this concept. They call it 'attachment parenting' and 'baby wearing'.

Note that many insults are hurled at people to try to control them or get them to do something. The adults in this village love to help others and no one tries to convince someone to do something. Also people may compliment you to try to get you to do something. In this village there are no insults and compliments are sincere. If someone needs something, they never ask for it. Then the person would have to answer "yes or no." They will simply mention their need.

Kahlil Gibran was born in Lebanon in 1883 and died in New York City, USA. He is against trying to make your kid like you, but in favor of you trying to be like your kid. Jesus said "Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven." Matthew 18:4 NKJV. The bible also says, Proverbs 23:13, "Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die."

Kahlil Gibran says, in The Prophet,

Your children are not your children
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.For life goes not backward nor tallies with yesterday [tallies-- to make count of].

What Happened to Me

I was born before Jean Liedloff wrote this book. I was born in a hospital in New York City. It had many baby girls there, but I was the only baby boy. So the nurses were lined up to hold me. Maybe they thought it was good luck.There was a movie called Good Luck Chuck.

Then my mother divorced my Irish Catholic father since he had a drinking problem and she moved in with her wealthy Jewish parents. My grandmother could afford to buy anything, but her favorite thing to do was to hold me. So she did it all the time. That is the basis of having a lot of self-esteem. After she died, when I was 6 years old, many of her friends told me that she was the nicest woman that they had ever known.

Gender Identity

On the Dr. Phil TV show, Dr. Phil said that he got many letters about boys that want to do what girls do and girls that want to do what boys do. Being a good business man, he did not choose either side. He let the 2 sides fight it out on his show. One side teaches that it is OK. The other side teaches that it is wrong and the child needs to be changed.

This issue is not discussed in the book. But the boys would usually go hunting (only if they want to) and the girls would do cooking and preparing food. Say that the above happened and a girl wanted to go hunting and the boy wanted to do the chores that the girls do. Well they do not dictate and they do not judge. So this would be completely accepted. Again, it is the child's choice to be and do what they want to. In America there are over 50,000 intersexuals. This means that they are neither male nor female. They may have one testicle and one ovary.

Yoga

Here are some quotes about yoga by Timothy McCall M.D. from his book, Yoga as Medicine: The Yogic Prescription for Health and Healing (Copyright 2007) "I've gained muscle, lost fat and become a lot more flexible." "What's become more important to me is the mental peace that has come...." "Stepping out of the crazy, fast-paced world to pay close attention to what's happening right then and there puts me in touch with a calm place deep inside me-- deep inside all of us." "Yoga [includes postures and meditation] is not a panacea [cure-all], but it is powerful medicine indeed for body, mind and spirit." Dr. McCall is a board-certified specialist in internal medicine who started doing yoga in his middle age. The cover of this book says "Read this to find out why we teach our patients yoga-- Mehmet Oz, M.D., author of YOU: The Owners Manual." I have been doing yoga since age 12!

Social Anxiety

This is normal and common in today's society. For hundreds of thousands of years, people lived in villages. It was like a big family. That is why there is the saying, "it takes a village to raise a child." People took care of each other and shared things so there was no idea of stealing.

If they met with another village to trade or celebrate and have done this many times, they felt relaxed with them. If it was a tribe that they never encountered before (strangers), then they had to be very cautious since the other tribe may kill them. They may be there to rape and pillage (the act of looting [stealing] especially in a war).

Keeping a Journal

This information comes from the book, The Psychology Major's Handbook (Copyright 2006) by Dr. Tara L. Kuther (site about her). "The first step in choosing a major is understanding yourself. Personal and reflective writing are important tools to help you understand yourself. Consider keeping a journal, a record of self--reflective writing." It can be a notebook, computer file or blog. "It is a place where you can reflect on yourself and on your experiences, goals, dreams and anxieties."

Here are some of the benefits of journal writing.

Self-Exploration

This is a chance to explore your true thoughts and feelings, learn about yourself and the world around you. "It forces you to focus your thoughts, providing an opportunity to identify your opinions and values."

Therapy

"After a long day or a difficult experience, your journal provides a place for reflection. It's a private opportunity to let out feelings of frustration, anger or anxiety. Writing about your deepest thoughts and feelings, or even about everyday mundane matters, can help you to release pent-up stress, which is vital for your emotional and physical health." Don't censor what you write.

Get Organized

"Writing is an organizational tool. A journal can be a place to gather your thoughts, brainstorm ideas, and plan." It does not have to be well written or scholarly. "With regular use, writing will become a habit and expand beyond everyday topics to include self-reflection, planning, and goal setting."

Solve Problems

You can help solve problems by writing them out and then writing different choices for solutions. Writing requires a different thought process than thinking. "We think in different ways when we write."

Enhance Communication

"The more often you write, the more your writing will improve. Journal writing strengthens communication skills, both oral and written."

Unleash Your Creativity

"Through writing we become more creative." You can say that writing is an art. I was always bad at art but I was great at martial arts which is a type of art form. I like writing and I think that I am good at it. Actually I was complimented on some sales letters that I wrote by a multi-millionaire who read them. He was an expert in psychology having spent 12 years in graduate school studying psychology. Then he taught psychology to the CIA. Actually I had not thought of this in a very long time and I just recalled it while writing this. This brings us right to the next benefit.

Record Your Experience

Doing this gives you a written record of things that happened that will be more precise than your memory. When I started fasting, I kept a journal of how I would feel each day I fasted. "A journal helps you to remember events, experiences, feelings and intentions. It offers a place to record accomplishments, hopes and dreams as well as to retain details that you would probably otherwise forget."

"The more often you write in your journal, the more you will learn about yourself." Everything in quotes in this section is from Dr. Kuther. With a blog (web journal) you can learn computer skills, complain about things to an audience and make a little bit of money. One guy liked celebrities but knew he would never meet one. His blog about it became so popular that now he is friends with many celebrities that he has met and gets to go to all the Hollywood events. If you put Google ads on your blog, then when someone clicks onto an ad, you make money. Just never click on your own ad or you will be banned from having these ads (called Adsense).

When Others Treat You Badly

As I read more problems on forums, I add information to this site. One girl was telling how other girls say mean things to her in school. The more that you care about what others think, the more unhappy you will be. Instead of trying to impress others, try to impress yourself.

When people say mean things to you, even if they are Christians, just wish them a nice day. You can say "Have a nice day" or "I wish you the best in finding what you are looking for." This is how you win every argument. Never say a mean thing back to them, ever. You will be the master of yourself. Now if you fail to do this, do not get mad at yourself, just try it again the next day. There is a saying, "Practice makes perfect."

The mean things that they say will come back on them. See the TV show, My Name is Earl, that is all about this (karma). If you tell them to have a nice day, it will come back on you. Also this is a terrible thing to say to them that might hurt them. But that is their problem, not yours.

[Patronize means to adopt an air of condescension toward] [Condescension is like talking down to someone]. Saying this to someone who is mean to you is patronizing them and saying that you do not take their craziness seriously and you feel bad for them like you feel about a crippled or crazy person.

[Patronize means to adopt an air of condescension toward] [Condescension is like talking down to someone]. Saying this to someone who is mean to you is patronizing them and saying that you do not take their craziness seriously and you feel bad for them like you feel about a crippled or crazy person.

When people say or do things to hurt you, they are really hurting themselves and helping you. When they do this, they give some of their good luck to you. That means that you have more and they have less. Also they steal from you some of your bad luck and now they have more bad luck and you have less. When people hurt you, then they are giving you some of their good luck and taking away from you some of your bad luck.

The webpage about finding happiness talks about how top psychologists have learned that by helping others (altruistic acts), it makes you happier. Lack of this can contribute to making you depressed. So here is your assignment. You will be working with the actress, Natalie Portman (Queen Amadalia on Star Wars).

You collect used shoes from people that do not need them anymore. Then you will send them to Africa. See this site: shoe4africa.org. Then people in Africa with no shoes can wear them and this will prevent parasites (ringworms) from entering through their feet and living in their body because you saved them from that. Also having shoes increases self-esteem. So you will be increasing their self-esteem and impressing yourself, giving you more self-esteem.

Pain and Suffering

People do their best to avoid pain and suffering. But sometimes it is unavoidable like when teens have bad parents. In A New Earth,  Eckhart Tolle says "Suffering has a noble purpose: the evolution of consciousness and the burning up of the ego." It helps to have the attitude that Asians have toward this. They feel that it improves their character and brings them better luck in the future. A Korean couple cane to the U.S.A. They worked in a convenience store and the owner let them live in the back room which was very uncomfortable. They suffered instead of getting their own apartment with their income. In 2 years they bought their own convenience store.

Wearing a Bra

A 12 year old was asking if she should wear a bra or not on a forum. This is necessary advice for teen girls. In the USA, you cannot vote at that age but the decision to wear a bra is up to you. There is no law that requires you to wear one ever. There is a sexist law that says that you cannot be topless like a man can. There is a group of women trying to change that. You can wait until you feel that you need the support. Or to make them look bigger, there are padded bras and some girls stuff them with tissues. They have training bras so girls can get used to them before they need them but it is up to you. Here is a website that covers all this in detail.

There are many women in Africa that have never worn a bra ever. The actress, Selma Blair, has been in many great movies. She has small breasts and the internet is filled with pictures of her not wearing a bra. The most famous one is of her in New York when she was wearing a see-through dress. There is also a picture of her pregnant and not wearing a bra. I am a huge fan of Selma Blair. She is the fire starting superhero on Hellboy. She is also in the sequel, Hellboy II, The Golden Army.

Self-Esteem: Are you Too Short

I saw on a forum where a teen age girl was concerned about being too short. There is no need to be concerned about this. Women like tall men but most men like attractive women that are shorter than them. The male singer, Prince, is only 5'2" tall. Madonna is 5'3.5" tall. Drew Barrymore, Natalie Portman, Jodie Foster and Reethe Witherspoon are all only 5'3". Jennifer Love Hewitt is 5'2". Lucy Liu is 5'1.75". Avril Lavigne is 5'1.5". Nicole Richie is 5'1". Christini Ricci is 5'0.5" tall. Dolly Parton, Mary Kate Olson and Paula Abdul are all 5' (five feet tall). The adorable looking Selma Blair is 5 foot, 3 inches tall. She will be on TV on Thursday nights (10/9/08) on the new TV show, Kath and Kim.

Last but not least is my favorite, Shawn Johnson. In the 2008 Olympics in Beijing, China she won a gold medal on the balance beam, a silver medal for team, a silver in all-around and a silver in floor exercise. She is the 2007 World All-Around Champion in gymnastics, as well as the 2007 and 2008 U.S. National All-Around Champion. She won the 2006 U.S. Junior National All-Around Championship in gymnastics with a score higher than any of the senior elite competitors that year.  She is 16 years old and is 4 feet, 9 inches tall. Melanie Roach is 5'1" and a mother of 3. Melanie Roach (her website) is on the Olympic team at Beijing 2008 as a weight lifter. She looks thin and weighs 117 pounds, but can lift 250 pounds over her head!

Help With Cutting

Princess Diana was a cutter. She said "You have so much pain inside yourself that you try and hurt yourself on the outside because you want help." Angelina Jolie, the actress who has starred in the movies Girl Interrupted and Tomb Raider, was born to actor Jon Voight and actress Marcheline Bertrand on June 4, 1975. She was a cutter in her teens but she stopped and now is a humanitarian. Johnny Depp used cutting as a coping mechanism to deal with his life, which was spiraling out of control. To quote Depp, "No matter how famous I am, no matter how many people see my movies, I still have the idea that I am a pale no-hoper." But this changed when he got involved with someone and had a kid.

This is common in our society while it did not exist over 20 years ago. It is "connected to our girl-piercing culture." Cutting is a coping mechanism for people in pain just like drinking alcohol and smoking are coping mechanisms. Girls need a better coping strategy to deal with stress. Cutting or burning themselves becomes a way to calm down and cutting gets harder to stop as it continues. This is quickly curable under guidance and you are no longer a cutter. The best thing is to talk to a good therapist. If not, talk to anyone about it. Also write down the feelings you have when you want to cut. You never know. You could end up as a writer!  I just made up this saying. To avoid hurting yourself, avoid hurting others.

You could snap a rubber band against yourself (like on your wrist) which causes pain but no permanent injury. Also putting ice against your skin causes pain but no permanent injury. Yoga is a great exercise for stress. There is some pain in it but it is a good pain of stretching and releasing. It is very good for you. You can even learn it at home from a book like I did when I was 12 years old. Also on links page it has a place that has meetings around the country for cutters (see 7th link).

The book below (Bodily Harm) is supposed to be a great book on self-mutilation (cutting). It says that cutting is not a disease or addiction. They say that it is a "a mechanism to cope with stress, relieve inexpressible feelings, and gain attention." The authors started a clinic on self-mutilation (cutting) in Chicago.

Here is info on cutting that is outside the box. It deals with lack of self-love or self-hate which is common in today's society. This psychology comes from the movie, The Mission (1986). The main character is played by Robert De Niro. He made his living going into the jungles in Brazil and abducting natives and making them slaves. Since he used a sword, you could say he was a cutter. He killed those who tried to stop him by cutting them. He sleeps with his brother's wife. Instead of giving you all this psychological theory, you will have to learn from the story just like you learn from your own experiences in life.

His brother finds out and tries to pick a fight (duel) with De Niro. He knows that he is better with swords (a better cutter) than his brother so he refuses to fight. His brother goes storming out and De Niro follows him to calm his brother down. The brother bumps into a stranger on the street and challenges him to a duel. De Niro knows that he is better than this commoner and will kill him. So he stops his brother from killing this stranger and says that he is really mad with him and wants to fight him. So they fight and De Niro kills his brother by cutting him. Now he hates himself and does not want to live anymore. Does this sound familiar?

So he joins a monastery. He just stays in his room and is filled with self-hate but this self imposed  punishment does not help him much. A priest (Jeremy Irons) comes to the monastery looking for volunteers to tell natives in the jungles of Brazil about Jesus. He promises that if De Niro comes along, then he can heal him. So De Niro goes along and has a net tied to him with 200 pounds of armor in it. He has to drag it through the jungle wherever they go. It is torture for De Niro but this is what he needs.

At one point the other priests tell Irons that they think he has suffered enough and he should not have to do it anymore. But Irons says that De Niro does not think he has suffered enough and that is what matters. So he has to keep dragging it even though it pains these other priests to see him suffer so much. Finally they get to the interior of the jungle where the natives are. The natives capture them and one of them holds a knife to De Niro's neck. The native recognizes De Niro as the guy who killed his brother during one of his raids. Irons explains to the natives what De Niro and them are doing there and why he is dragging the armor. De Niro knows it is only fair for the native to cut his throat since he killed the native's brother by cutting him with his sword.

So then the native cuts the net, with the armor on it, loose from De Niro. De Niro starts crying and weeping and continues for a long time. That is how his self-hate was healed or cured. Now one way you can help yourself is by helping others which is explained on that page on how to be happier. But you can find a healthy self-torture for yourself. In the book, What is a Jew, a rabbi explains that one purpose of fasting is penitence. This is when someone does something to repent of a sin. So you can try fasting even if you are thin. It causes people to lose weight. The main point is that life can be extremely difficult sometimes but there is always hope for you. If you could feel how much love there was for you, you would start to cry and not stop crying for days. But these would be tears of happiness. You are loved! I now grant you the power to heal yourself.

I am an expert on fasting so my webpage on it is long with quotes from 17 different medical doctors (MDs). Jesus did it for 40 days before preaching to anyone or performing any miracles. Moses did it for 40 days and then the Almighty God gave Moses Her commandments. Also yoga and martial arts are exercises that are just like a penitence. In fact the martial arts actor, Claude Van Damme, became depressed so his holistic doctor looked for the cause. Van Damme's fame and fortune came from his martial arts training which he had done his whole life. But now that he was rich, he had stopped doing it. So his holistic doctor started him training again and his depression was cured or healed and it left the same way that it came.

Alternative

There is a healthy alternative. In martial arts, people will stand under cold or freezing cold water for 10 minutes. Some do it in a shower and others do it under a little waterfalls where the water is freezing cold. This is painful but it helps them with self discipline and personal growth. In martial arts, there are only a handful of grandmasters. I saw a picture of one of them, Gogen Yamaguchi (The Cat), doing it at around age 60. So even though he had been doing it for decades, he was still doing it, meaning that he still got benefit from it. So instead of being shunned by people for cutting, you can do what a 10th degree black belt (red belt), grandmaster of karate does. Here is a picture of him with info on him: The Cat Here is a video of him: The Cat The end of this video shows him under the waterfalls. Also you can try dripping hot wax from a candle onto your skin.

Possible Cure For Cutting

I was thinking about something done by Moses, Jesus, Buddha and Mohammed. Since it helped them, maybe it can help you. It is very powerful but is an extreme thing to do. It is fasting. If you see the webpage on depression, it tells how fasting has cured depression and other mental problems. So a week of fasting, where you only consume pure water and nothing else, should make a big enough change to erase the need for cutting. See the page on fasting for what happens to your mind and body during a fast and things to be concerned about. According to the bible, it was only after Jesus fasted for 40 days, did he start preaching and performing miracles.

College

This information comes from the book, Revolution from Within: A Book of Self-Esteem by Gloria Steinem (Copyright 1992). Here is a quote from it (page 124):

"For the last ten years, researchers Terry Denny and Karen Arnold from the University of Illinois have been measuring just how bad it really is. In 1981, they began to follow 80 high school valedictorians [graduated 1st in class]: 34 men and 46 women; white, African-American, Hispanic, and Chinese-American; from a wide variety of economic backgrounds. All graduated at the top of their class and went on to fulfill their promise at a wide variety of colleges, universities, institutes, and later in many cases, at graduate and professional schools. In fact, the women valedictorians, greater in number from the start, also had college grade averages slightly higher than those of the men. 

After two years of college, however, intellectual self-esteem among the women had plummeted. Though 23% of the males and 21% of the females had described themselves as "far above average" in intellect when surveyed after high school, by sophomore year in college, that proportion had remained at 22% among the men-- but dropped to 4% among the women. 

By the time these students graduated, 25% of the men had an estimate of themselves as "far above average"-- but none of the women did."
" 'We have long known that rape has been a way of terrorizing us and keeping us in subjection,' writes the distinguished historian Gerda Lerner. 'Now we also know that we have participated, although unwittingly, in the rape of our minds.' "

Things are changing. Now there are more women than men in college, medical school and law school. So I think that there will be a shift of more men in blue collar jobs and more women in white collar jobs. In Philadelphia, there is more construction going on than ever including the building that will be the highest building in Philadelphia. Construction workers can make a lot of money and men are usually better at it than women. A couple that I know has 2 kids. The husband is a construction worker and the wife is a paralegal. The husband said that many college graduates are now construction workers.

In the book, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, there is a chapter about yoga and martial arts and about how they are so good for creating the flow experience. See the page "What is Enlightenment" for more on the flow experience and how it can make time stop for you. Actress Jennifer Aniston says "Yoga calms me down. It gives me energy and focus." "My legs got leaner. My arms got strong. I've maybe grown half an inch from aligning my spine." She also does meditation.

Alcohol and Drugs

Ignoring the effects on physical health, alcohol is a legal drug. It used to be an illegal drug. It makes people less relaxed and so more stressed out and less happy. Drugs cause a slingshot effect. You get a long term effect to the opposite of the short term effect. This is due to homeostasis. My 1,900 page Mosby Medical Dictionary defines homeostasis as: "[Gk, homoios + stasis, standing still] a relative constancy in the internal environment of the body, naturally maintained by the adaptive responses that promote healthy survival. Various sensing, feedback, and control mechanisms function to effect this steady state."

Whatever effect the drug has on the body, the body produces an opposite effect to balance it out. If you have no trouble getting to sleep, then take sleeping pills every night for a week and then try to get to sleep without them. So whatever pleasurable effect the alcohol has temporarily, it has the opposite effect on you permanently. This is the same with all drugs. You can take drugs to make you high, but then the body produces an opposite effect on you. If you do things like exercise, yoga and meditation then your body produces its own chemicals to make you feel good. See the paragraph up on this page.

Here is an example in physics of this happening. When you push on a wall, the reason that the wall does not move is because it is pushing back against you with the same force. The harder you push, the harder the wall pushes back against you and that is why it does not move. If you run into a wall, you get knocked back in the opposite direction due to it pushing back against you. If you create more force on it, than it can push back with, then it will move and you will break through it. Not using drugs, alcohol or smoking is great advice for teen girls.

Here is a site with many different teen issues of girls and boys including puberty, masturbation and cutting: http://www.teengrowth.com

More on Enlightened People

Buddha

I have read some of Andrew Cohen's writings and it appears that he does not have a meditation for his students to do. According to him, his enlightenment came from him being with his master in 1986. I read his 1992 book, Autobiography of an Awakening. He says on page 109 of this book, "I felt betrayed beyond measure and horrified at the lengths to which he seemed to be going to undermine me." He said this about his master and the book is like a spiritual soap opera about how he and his master ended up not having anything to do with each other. Now I only read his side, but it looks like he was very sincere and his master had a lot of serious issues and treated Andrew horribly. Of course Andrew is the one who chose to trust him, so he has to share in responsibility for what happened to him.

It appears that he is sincere and trying to help the world. Also, before he met his master, Andrew had been involved in martial arts and yoga. Also he was born in New York. I grew up in Philadelphia, but I was born in New York since my mother was teaching ballet at Julliards school of performing arts. I wish him the best of luck. Here is (Wikipedia Online Encyclopedia about him). To see where he says that he doubted whether he was enlightened or had attained enlightenment click on the link on the second paragraph of this blog by Andrew, where it says (read this interview) and see page 3 of 15 of this PDF file.

Since it is common for people to never experience the flow experience to the infinite degree, it is easy for someone who does experience it, to think that it is enlightenment. Andrew says that people think that enlightenment is the end of the journey when it is the beginning of the journey. I am calling the end of that journey enlightenment. This is the point when a person has everything that they have ever been looking for. They no longer need anything for themselves except the body's basic needs.

I have read and own a 650 page book called The Book of Enlightened Masters: Western Teachers in Eastern Traditions (© 1997) by Andrew Rawlinson. It has lots of crazy stuff in it. It has several pages on Andrew Cohen. It also tells about Paul Twitchell who created Eckankar with tens of thousands of followers. It teaches a meditation on inner light and music (Surat Shabd Yoga). The inner music is also known as anahat nadam in India (means unstruck sound), celestial music, celestial sound, soundless sound, unstruck music and other terms. Mr. Twitchell learned surat shabd yoga from Kirpal Singh who learned it from Sawan Singh.

The book tells how Paul Twitchell wrote a book called The Flute of God that was originally published in Orion Magazine in 1966. In that book he referred to masters Meher Baba, Shri Kirpal Singh and Guru Nanak who were real people that existed in the physical world. An internet search tells a lot about them. Then his book was published by Eckankar's own Illustrated Way Press in 1970 and the names were changed to nonexistent people like Fubbi Quantz, Sudar Singh and Rebazar Tarz leading to him being the 971st Eck master.

JOHN-ROGER Hinkens was the founder of MSIA which is pronounced messiah. He is also the co-founder of Insight Personal Growth Seminars which deals with self-improvement and improvement in dealing with other people. MSIA also teaches meditation on inner light and music. John-Roger was in Eckankar but denies that Paul Twitchell was his master. John-Roger says that his master came to him in the spiritual world. He said that this master was Rebazar Tarz which is someone that Twitchell had invented. Then later John-Roger saw a picture of Sawan Singh and said that it was actually Sawan Singh that he met in the spiritual world, not Rebazar Tarz.

There is a New York Times Bestseller book, The Heart of the Soul (2001). On page 233 it says "Eating is sacred" a few times. Now I am not talking about the writers of this book, but about this statement. If eating is sacred, then the fattest people would be the holiest people. Also this would mean that excreting waste is sacred since one thing causes the other. Would this also mean that not eating (fasting) is not sacred? Moses fasted for 40 days before receiving the Commandments from God. Jesus fasted for 40 days before preaching or performing any miracles.

This book also says "romantic attraction is the experience of locating a savior." I strongly disagree with this. There is an incredibly deep thing that can happen between 2 people. It can be the most powerful thing in a person's life. I could go into examples but for most people in our society, they would be stretching the limits of acceptance and understanding. Once I told my brother about a coincidence and said that some people would credit that as a divine occurrence. My brother said that it was just a coincidence. Then I gave him another bigger coincidence that happened with a woman I met. So he could have just repeated that it was a coincidence but his response was "Now that is really strange."

They recognize this closeness between two people in Scientology. It is said about the meditation that I do that it acts like a mirror so that you can see yourself. When it comes to someone that you are in love with and they are also in love with you, your energy going out can hit this person and be reflected back onto you like a mirror. To put it in another way, you can see yourself in the eyes of this other person by the way they  look at you.

An Objective View of Dianetics and Scientology

The founder of Scientology considered himself an enlightened person. I am not a Scientologist but have a very thorough understanding of the above since I love to read books. It started out as Dianetics. They wanted to design psychology the right way without using drugs, electroshock and cutting out a part of the brain (lobotomies). They would focus only on the therapy. They found that some people would show signs of stress when remembering a trauma. They would go over these traumas until there was no more stress while recalling them. They created an electrical device similar to a lie detector to help them find these areas of stress.

As far as time perception goes (mentioned on the other page), by removing the internal stress associated with traumas they could release the attention units that were trapped in the past so they could return to the present. A classic spiritual book from the 70s was called Be Here Now. This is very similar to therapy in psychology. They would do this until all the traumatic events were no longer stressful to the person. So they would deal with the past so people could be more in the present. With all these events cleared of stress, the person was called a clear.

Everything up to this point is normal as far as Western thought goes. But here is where it gets strange. People would come to L. Ron Hubbard and say that people would remember something happening on a date before they were born. Since L.R.H. knew this was impossible, he would tell them to just ignore it. After many times of this happening with him, he decided to play around and let them tell what happened. But he found that when people would go over these past life events, they would have more improvement than with events in this lifetime.

This is how Scientology came about which not only dealt with this life, but past lives. They found that the clear needed to go over traumatic events from past lives also. They even found events that happened to mankind on a massive scale. This is what some of the sites that are against scientology talk about. Past lives is accepted by people in the East. But it has become especially heinous to believe in it in the West. "Especially heinous" is what they say in the introduction to the show, Law and Order: Special Victims Unit. Heinous means hatefully or shockingly evil.

Also in Dianetics they only focus on bad events in your past similar to psychology. They do not look at the good events. So over time this can have a depressing effect on the person focusing on all these bad events. So Scientology focuses on bringing attention units into the present without having to focus on bad events. Oprah Winfry is promoting a book by Eckard Tolle. It teaches that the way people can be happier is by being in the present. So you could say that the goal of all of them is to get people to be happier by being in the present. Recently they have created positive psychology that deals with this (see webpage, Finding Happiness/Enlightenment).

Also Dianetics/Scientology has found that when people go past words that they do not understand, it can cause them to have great difficulty in understanding a subject. So you could say that looking up words in the dictionary is practicing Scientology. Note that that there is a Harvard trained psychiatrist named Brian Weiss, M.D. that has people go over events that happened in past lives. He has written books about this like Many Lives, Many Masters; Eliminating Stress, Finding Inner Peace and Meditation. I understand people not liking their practice being compared to another. They want to believe that they are the only one that came up with the idea.

There is a difference between the teachings of Scientology and Scientologists. Both are against shock therapy and medications (drugs). They had Tom Cruise on TV being interviewed about this. He said that drugs are not the ideal way to deal with mental issues. Some people do not like the way Scientologists are very aggressive at promoting it. This does agree with the teachings. It is very similar to what Christians believe. It is like they feel that whatever it takes is OK since you are dealing with a person's immortal soul.

I think both the above groups need to have more respect for a person's free will and their right to choose. An Indian scripture, Bhagavad Gita, teaches that it is better to make your own wrong decision than to follow someone else and make a right decision. By following your own wrong choice, you can learn from your mistakes. Many words have more than one meaning and looking it up in the dictionary can show you the meanings. If you look up self-esteem, you see that self-esteem(1) is good and self-esteem(2) is bad.

With all these people thinking so highly of themselves and being so aggressive, I would call this ego(1). The ego in psychology is ego(3). This ego(1) can create lots of problems. One of the most famous people with a big ego(1), who thought he was helping to make the world a better place, was Adolf Hitler. Having a big ego(1) is not the way to get people to like you. True humility and humbleness are qualities that people like.

The founder of Scientology was very much against smoking, drinking and alcohol. But many Scientologists smoke and believe that is totally fine since they are Scientologists. Also I have seen alcohol being served at Scientology events. Even though they believe that it is OK to smoke, they do not admit that the only reason that they are doing it is that they are addicted to it. They do not see that they have an addiction. Famous Scientologists include Clint Eastwood who was a mayor (do not know if he still is), Tom Cruise, Kirstie Alley and John Travolta.

I was reading about a woman in Scientology that got to a very high level called OT 5(V). She kept having problems on this level and no one could help her with it. She asked around and others were doing well with on this same level. So she quit because it was not working for her. No one is trying to get rich from Scientology. You can get rich from acting like Tom Cruise is doing. The money that is generated from it, is to keep it working and to spread it to other people.

Also they use the money to make everything as workable as possible. Recently (like 2008) they have published all new materials correcting many mistakes that were made in the past. People are now able to go through these materials at a much quicker rate and they have a much better understanding of it. People getting in it now, will have a much easier time than the people using it in the past.

It does work better than psychology psychotherapy. Unlike psychologists and psychiatrists, Scientologists are strongly against taking drugs (medications). Drugs suppress symptoms. This is why research has found that people taking Prozac, who were never violent, can go on killing sprees. I think that these drugs for mental problems is the major cause of killing sprees that people go on.
There are meetings for drug addicts called Narcotics Anonymous. They do not consider smoking cigarettes a drug addiction since they have people dealing with very strong drugs like cocaine and heroine. But nicotine, that is in tobacco, is a narcotic so I consider people smoking to be drug addicts. Of course this includes the Scientologists that smoke. 
Scientology does have a physical purification program using a sauna to cause a lot of sweating to get toxins and drugs out of the body. I heard that a lot of these were given free to the people working around ground zero. I know a cocaine addict who would go to Narcotics Anonymous meetings.
I saw him on the day he stopped smoking. He would drive the day shift on a cab and I would drive the night shift. On this day that he stopped smoking, he was drooling like a dug and was incoherent. So apparently smoking had a strong effect on him. The nicotine is a stimulant. But people feel relaxed from smoking since the carbon monoxide numbs the brain. See the webpage Natural Cures II, for help to stop smoking.

Ignoring the effects on physical health, alcohol is a legal drug. It used to be an illegal drug. It makes people less relaxed and so more stressed out and less happy. Drugs cause a slingshot effect. You get a long term effect to the opposite of the short term effect. This is due to homeostasis. My 1,900 page Mosby Medical Dictionary defines homeostasis as: "[Gk, homoios + stasis, standing still] a relative constancy in the internal environment of the body, naturally maintained by the adaptive responses that promote healthy survival. Various sensing, feedback, and control mechanisms function to effect this steady state."

Whatever effect the drug has on the body, the body produces an opposite effect to balance it out. If you have no trouble getting to sleep, then take sleeping pills every night for a week and then try to get to sleep without them. So whatever pleasurable effect the alcohol has temporarily, it has the opposite effect on you permanently. This is the same with all drugs. You can take drugs to make you high, but then the body produces an opposite effect on you. If you do things like exercise, yoga and meditation then your body produces its own chemicals to make you feel good.

To repeat it, unlike psychology and psychiatry, Scientology is against using drugs. L.R.H. is against smoking and drinking. He did say that alcohol is good for preserving dead animals. In More Natural Cures Revealed, Kevin Trudeau says "The facts are clear, drugs, both prescription and non-prescription, do not make you healthier, they make you sicker. Drug companies are not interested in your health. Drug companies only want you to buy and use more drugs. If you want to cure yourself of any disease you have and remain healthy, you must eliminate all non-prescription and prescription drugs."

What is Heaven Like

I saw on a forum that a Christian was asking about heaven. Since the bible does not describe this, each Christian gave an answer of what they imagined that heaven would be like. The person asked if his wife will be there with him and will he be able to have sex with her. Also he asked if he could eat in heaven and what will it be like there. A woman once asked if she could read in heaven since she likes to read. If she could, what books would they have?

In the new testament they talk about heaven and hell like it is a well known thing. So where did this come from? Before Jesus was born, the official religion of the Persian Empire was Zoroastrianism. This empire included all of the Middle East and part of Europe including all of Italy. Zoroaster taught that if you do more good than bad, then you go to heaven. If you do more bad than good, then you go to hell.

So people are concerned about giving up their favorite things in life. Say you had a choice when you got to heaven. On one hand you could accept what heaven is or you could create your own heaven just as you want it. Also you could change it at any time in case you do not like what you created. I do not know what you would pick but the real heaven is much more incredible than anything you can imagine.

There is no time, space, size, shape or quantity there so your mind cannot imagine it. There is no quantity like 5,000 people since there is only one thing which is a oneness. The thing that is there is feeling. Try to imagine all the greatest feelings you have ever had coming together and all the best feelings that everyone has ever had coming together in one place. It feels like total contentment, perfect peace, pure joy, limitless happiness and endless love. When you feel it, you know that is what you have always wanted to feel or experience.

Now how can I know this if I am still alive? It is because you can feel or experience heaven while alive.

Health, Healing and Happiness

The Ninja Warrior Diet

Losing Weight In A Fast, Easy and Healthy Way

Nourish Your Body Thin, Instead of Starving Your Body Fat

Introduction (Read First)

If you feel that yould do better with a book that you can carry around with you, the book below by an MD will also have almost everything that you need to know. You should learn about losing weight, for permanent weight loss. Being overweight puts you at greater risk of getting cancer. Diets do not work. 99% of the people gain the weight back. The stress of not eating as much as you want makes your system more acid. This is unhealthy and makes you crave more sugar, salt and fat making weight loss harder. Instead you need to eat as much as you want of different foods, not less foods (according to Harvard U. and new USA government pyramid websites).

The National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Disorders (a National Institute of Health) (niddk.nih.gov/publications) says "A weight loss 'diet' that limits your portions to a very small size or that excludes certain foods may be hard to stick to. It may not work over the long term. Instead, a healthy eating plan takes into account your likes and dislikes, and includes a variety of foods that give you enough calories and nutrients for good health."

You can lose waste in an hour to flatten your stomach for waist management. With fasting you can lose water retention weight quickly or lose it slowly with diet. It is caused by a substance that has no calories-- salt. This way of eating favors vegetarians and vegans.

Mark Hyman, MD, editor in chief of the medical journal Alternatives in Health and Medicine says (in Bottom Line Yearbook 2008), "Myth 1: The less you eat, the more weight you'll lose.... In my experience, the average person who goes on a diet actually gains 5 pound instead of losing weight. Never go on a "diet." Instead eat foods that turn on your metabolism. These are whole foods that come from nature, such as vegetables, fruits, whole grains, nuts, seeds, beans...."

Myth 3: You can control your weight by counting calories.... Losing weight is not about counting calories-- it's about eating the right calories.... Myth 4: Eating fat makes you fat.... Myth 5: Going low-carbohydrate makes you thin. Carbohydrates are the the single most important food that you can eat for long term health and weight loss.... However, just as there are different fats, there are different types of carbohydrates."

There is a lot of wrong information out there that will make you fatter and create greater risk of getting cancer. For example, yogurt is considered good. But dairy products contain hormones that will make you fatter instead of helping you to lose weight. These growth hormones are given to the cows to make them fatter and give more milk. Then when you consume the products made from their milk, you are consuming hormones designed to make a cow fatter and so makes you fatter. They also cause girls to go through puberty earlier in life (like age 8 or 9). The meat and dairy people deny this but it is illegal in the European Union, Canada, Australia and Japan. There is organic milk and goats milk that does not have the above hormones although it is still not very healthy for you. The above applies to meat also which makes weight loss more difficult.

The Weight Loss Cure They Don't Want You to Know About by Kevin Trudeau

The Kevin Trudeau weight loss cure protocol from The Weight Loss Cure They Don't Want You to Know About  says that none of his 30 suggestions will work without the daily injections of an illegal drug.

It involves taking lots of supplements like vitamin C, coconut oil, cod-liver oil, colon cleanser, liver cleanser, coral calcium (which Kevin Trudeau used to sell on infomercials), EFAs 3, 6 and 9, greens drink, green tea and vinegar. The last 2 are talked about on this page and the greens drinks are talked about in detail on the page: Nutrition. This is the best supplement (greens drinks) to take for weight loss, to be healthy and avoid cancer.

Kevin Trudeau's weight loss cure protocol uses Fasting, enemas (colonics) and sunbathing which cleanse the body. Then it also involves a lot of exercise. It also means that fat people have to give up all the foods they love to eat. They have to eat a diet with no unhealthy foods. It works but involves a great deal of will power, time and money.

The Ninja Warrior Diet

Eat Like a Ninja Warrior

Wikipedia says "A ninja was a highly skilled operator in the history of Japan, specially trained in the art and science of assassination, espionage, guerilla warfare, covert killing, and combative martial arts." They practice ninjutsu, the art of stealth. The online Urban Dictionary defines a ninja as "A warrior who is trained in the art of ninjutsu, or a Japanese martial-arts style which involves stealth, speed, mastery of various weapons and poisons, efficient and deadly combat tactics, and the will to commit seppuku, or suicide, to defend the honor of a particular family or clan."

The Ninja Warrior Diet is good for people who want lose weight (fat), gain muscle or be healthier. It is good for everyone and unbeatable for weight loss. Here are more reasons to be on the ninja warrior diet. Do you want more self-esteem? The Urban Dictionary also says the following: Ninja's tears cure cancer. Too bad they never cry. Bullets dodge ninjas. Ninjas created the internet. Ninjas invented the wheel-- twice. Ninja don't smoke, but they do use smoke bombs. Ninjas put pants on 2 legs at a time. When ninjas do pushups, they don't push themselves up, they push the world down.

Taijutsu is the ninja art of unarmed combat. The book, Taijutsu (© 1986) by Charles Daniel says (page 5) "Probably the most important area of training that is overlooked is diet." "Unquestionably, one of the main problems with diet in America today is the overeating of meats, sugar and overprocessed foods." "As general guidelines, the following foods are almost always better than the above mentioned. Fish, instead of beef or pork, raw or steamed vegetables instead of overcooked or canned, and fruit instead of donuts, candy, etc." Historical sources show that ninjas also ate brown rice (a whole grain unlike white rice), sesame seeds, buckwheat (whole grain unlike wheat), tofu and seaweed.

Due to heavy mercury pollution, you can avoid fish completely especially if you are pregnant. If you insist on eating fish, limit fish and try to avoid the most toxic bigger fish and eat smaller fish. For more on this see http://gotmercury.org. Tofu is a healthier alternative to eating meat. By not eating meat, you do more to help the ecology of the planet and protect against global warming than doing anything else including switching to a hybrid car. In a groundbreaking 2006 report, the United Nations (U.N.) said that raising animals for food generates more greenhouse gases (carbon dioxide, methane and nitrous oxide) than all the cars and trucks in the world combined. So a vegetarian or vegan diet would do this.

Exercise

Resistance training is much more effective at losing weight than cardio (cardiovascular  or aerobic exercise). Muscle burns calories. Excess fat shortens life span due the extra burden on the cardiovascular system. Doing cardio today helps you today but not tomorrow or the next day with weight loss. Doing resistance training (lifting for short) today can help you today and everyday after that, with weight loss.

Doing cardio is very good for circulation and losing weight. Resistance training builds muscles. Resistance training, like lifting weights, does not burn as much calories as cardio, but the extra muscle causes you to burn more calories all the time. With more muscle you burn more calories 24/7 even while you are sleeping as long as you have it. A pound of extra muscle burns an extra 40 calories per day according to Wockhardt Hospital and Mass Builders Newsletter, June 1998. The purpose of bodybuilding (a type of resistance training) is to sculpt your body (like a sculptor sculpting clay) so it will look exactly the way you want it to look.

Any woman can use it to become thin and not muscular. Just do a little on each body part. For a woman to become muscular, she has to do it excessively and use steroids. I own a 700 page book on bodybuilding by Arnold Schwarzenegger (Encyclopedia of Modern Bodybuilding © 1985) and a bodybuilding book by world champion bodybuilder Rachel McLish (Perfect Parts © 1987). Click here to see her picture and see how beautiful she looks. Click here to see another picture of her. She says "It [Incline Dumbbell Flye] helps develop a full, high cleavage and to give breasts a firmer, higher look."

According to Chuck Norris (on ad for his Total Gym), cardio cannot change the shape of your body, but resistance training can. If you look through bodybuilding magazines, you can usually find one that has a basic workout routine. Then just follow the pictures in the magazine. Since lifting is so much more effective than cardio for losing weight, just by doing it an hour a week can make a difference.Arnold Schwarzenegger (governor of California) says that to be a champion bodybuilder, you have to have a maximum of muscle and a minimum of body fat and water retention.

Fitness Rx Magazine (October 2006) says "The only real solution to combating cellulite is to undertake a regimented program of targeted exercise [resistance training]. While it isn't a 'cure all'..., a well-designed thigh-training program can help to substantially reduce, if not completely eliminate, any sign of cottage cheese thighs. Lean muscle tone helps smooth underlying fat, making cellulite less evident." Power lifters will do 1 or 2 reps (repetitions) to build strength. Bodybuilders do around 10 reps to build muscles. More reps are used to build endurance.

Experts say that 90% of type 2 diabetes can be cured by losing fat and gaining muscle. One lady on TV says that she controls it with diet, exercise and drugs but sometimes it goes too high. She can always lower it in a half hour by taking coconut oil. Rebounding is great for losing weight if you do not have neck, back or knee problems. During free fall you have no gravity (0G) on you. When you are being propelled upward, you have 2G or twice the force of gravity on you. This causes all the cells in your body to expand and contract. It strengthens the ab muscles and is great for weight loss.

They tell fat people to walk but it does not get the cardiac rate high enough for weight loss. So do powerwalking (walking as fast as possible with arms above waist [Olympic event]), instead. You can gradually build up to it. There are bodyweight exercises (Hindu squats and push-ups) that are aerobic and bodybuilding. They can be done at home in one spot. See this site for more on bodyweight exercises. The best ab exercise is the bicycle exercise. Muscle is 18% more dense than body fat (1.06 g/ml vs 0.9 g/ml). But it is easier to lose a pound of fat than to create a pound of muscle which equals weight loss.

Quickest and Fastest Possible Weight Loss

This is great for losing weight and looking better before a wedding, prom or reunion. This is a secret trick used by models and dancers to lose belly or stomach weight before an event. First you can take an enema and lose 3 to 15 pounds of weight in an hour! This will flatten your tummy, belly or stomach besides causing weight loss. After a couple of days of normal eating, most of it will return. But (in addition to that secret trick) instead of eating, you fast 2 to 5 days. This really flattens your belly, tummy or stomach area much more. For more, see the webpages on enemas and fasting. You can lose up to 15 pounds of weight after fasting 5 days. It is mostly a loss of retained water which you no longer need after getting out excess salt.

If you do not want to do the above then give up all salt for a few days before the prom to lose a few pounds (almost all processed food contains salt). Now you should look better. You can go back to your normal eating and the way you looked before. Or you can use this motivation to permanently change your diet by following the rest of the info on this site. Even though metabolism slows down while fasting, which is good since you are not consuming any food, it will speed back up to normal when you start eating. The fatter you are, the less the metabolism slows down while fasting.
This enema and fasting method is also a powerful cleansing and healing method that can be done by even thin people to increase health. Beyonce lost 20 pounds in 10 days with the (lemonade diet) so you can do that instead of fasting, to lose weight. An enema is easier and a lot cheaper than a colonic which is part of the Kevin Trudeau weight loss cure protocol from The Weight Loss Cure They Don't Want You to Know About. Kevin Trudeau says in Natural Cures

"I can guarantee you that in your colon you have anywhere from 3 to 15 pounds of undigested fecal matter. This toxic material makes it more difficult for you to absorb nutrients, it slows down your metabolism, it makes you susceptible to all types of allergies including food allergies, gives you constipation, gas, indigestion, and acid reflux, and is a breeding ground for Candida yeast [which can make you depressed]."

Diet

Good Fats and Bad Fats

This has the best, easiest and most effective way to lose weight based on nutrition. According to an article by Dan Gwartney, M.D. on page 42 of Fitness Rx magazine (October 2006) trans fats are man made like for margarine, processed foods and when you fry foods. Two groups of monkeys were fed the same amount of calories but one group got trans fats. That group gained more weight than the other group and the weight was mostly around the belly and love handle area. Also the omega-3 and omega-6 unsaturated fats (found in nuts, seeds [like flaxseeds] and vegetable oils) reduced the size of the fat cells according to the International Journal of Obesity. The TV news says that coconut oil, nut butter, canola oil and soy oil help with losing weight.

The omega-9 unsaturated fat, like in olive oil, does not reduce the size but reduces the number of fat cells. Also these fats burn faster and help the body burn fat. The plant foods also have a little saturated fat which burns slower. Fish have some omega-3 and saturated fat but now have a lot of pollution. Meat, poultry and dairy have a lot of the bad saturated fat. So avoid trans fat and lower your risk of heart attacks by 53% and reduce belly and love handle fat. Avoid the bad fat in meat, poultry and dairy. Avoid fish due to the poisons in it. Eat the good fats in avocados, olives, nuts, seeds and vegetables to help in losing weight.

Good fat helps to build muscle while helping to burn body fat resulting in weight loss. The slower that carbs from a food enters your blood, the less fattening it is. Potatoes have fiber which slows down the sugar entering your blood. But a fat like olive oil, added to the potato, makes it less fattening since fat slows down the sugar entering your blood. Avocados are 60% fat but they are always listed among the 10 healthiest foods to eat. MDs say that the fat in it lubricates the body and is a great natural anti-inflammatory.

Healthy Ice Cream

Get some bananas and strawberries. Freeze them. Then put them into a blender separately and blend them. Then mix them in your bowl and eat.

Good and Bad Carbs (Carbohydrates)

There is a huge difference between good carbs and bad carbs (involving glycemic load). The good ones, like celery and carrots, will never make you fat. The bad ones, like cake, will make you fat. If you dislike fruits and vegetables, fasting a few days can re-set your taste buds so that you love these foods. There was this theory that animals in the wild do not get overweight because they eat all of their food raw. Cooking destroys enzymes in foods which helps you digest and assimilate food. It is no longer just a theory. From many people with all raw food diets we now know you do not become fat from raw foods. People say you should drink a lot of water to lose weight. It is better for losing weight to eat a lot of water. Eat foods containing a lot of water like raw fruits and raw vegetables-- the kind of foods you can juice.

This greatly improves health also (see Natural Healing page for more on this). Healthy people are fit, not fat. People eating all raw foods learn a whole new way of preparing foods so they can eat raw (FAKE) ice cream, cake, pudding, cookies, pasta, burgers, bread, mashed potatoes and pizza. For recipes see the raw foods link under "links." Also at bottom of this page there are links to companies that have a line of all raw food bars (no added sugars) at low prices. Note-- the milk and sugar make conventional chocolate bad. There is another diet that keeps people thin and much healthier where they eat 85% raw food and 15% cooked healthy food at the end of the day as a reward for eating raw food all day which is easier to do. For a list of everything they avoid, see Natural Healing page.

The foods that keep you thin (even if most of it were cooked) are fruits, vegetables (plenty off greens), WHOLE grains (all good carbs), nuts, seeds and beans. Bad carbs includes refined wheat, white rice and refined sugar. Where do you store excess carbs and fats? You store them as body fat. Where do you store excess protein? You cannot store it. It must be broken down. Doing this creates toxins that hurt the body including creating acids that cause osteoporosis. This is why they tell you to eat a lot of protein to lose weight. But you still get calories from it, when it is broken down.

Americans eat way too much protein which is why most of them get myocardial infarctions or cerebrovascular accidents (AKA heart attacks or strokes) according to Joel Fuhrman, M.D. In other places in the world these are not common problems. College textbooks on nutrition say that protein deficiency is rare in the world and does not exist at all in this part of the world. This means that while millions of people are starving from a lack or carbs and fats, it is rare for someone to get enough carbs and fats but not enough protein.

Kevin Trudeau says in More Natural Cures Revealed (© 2006) "The meat [beef] ...is loaded with drugs, growth hormone, as well as feces and urine.... The fact is cows are vegetarian and should not be eating the type of feed given to them. Specifically they should not be eating ground up pigs, horses, goats, and other cows, most of which were sick and diseased and not capable of butchering for human consumption."

Long time champion bodybuilder, Clarence Bass, says "The American Heart Association has joined the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the American College of Sports Medicine, the American Dietetic Association, the Women's Sports Foundation, and the Cooper Institute for Aerobic Research in saying that high-protein, low-carbohydrate weight loss diets are not the way to go." Also he says "Healthy eating starts with lots of vegetables and fruits." He is a Flexitarian (mostly vegetarian but a very small amount of meat, poultry and fish).

How to Eat to Lose Weight and Gain Health

Gabriel Cousins M.D. has written books explaining that raw foods are the healthiest foods to eat. Sit down with a totally empty stomach with a fruit that you love (or combination of them). It could be a combination of watermelon, strawberries, blueberries, bananas and kiwis. Then indulge yourself in the natural sweetness and juiciness of the fruit and (going against your brainwashing) eat it until you are totally full. Perfectly ripe avocados melt in your mouth. Avocados and bananas are great for losing weight since they are filling. It is better for digestion to eat the juicy fruits first. I like to eat for dinner first a red grapefruit or orange, an apple, an avocado and then 2 bananas.

With this you make sure to first feed your body healthy food to give it more energy, vitality and strength. Over time you will desire healthier food to eat because of this which greatly helps in losing weight. If you are having a craving for sweets, you can have a super sweet snack like dried figs and dates (very healthy for you). The unsulphured fruits taste much better and are healthier. If you are constantly craving food, it could be because you are overfed and undernourished (vitamins do not help). See info on greens drinks onSuperior Nutrition. Your breakfast should be all fruit and nothing else but fruit.

Before a meal, eat as much fruit as you want. It does not need to be digested in the stomach so it passes through. Wait 15 minutes before eating other foods so it can leave your stomach and not have to sit around for hours while other foods digest. This is common courtesy and better for digestion. Eat fruit on an empty stomach. This is the best way for anyone to eat fruit to improve digestion and health. The above applies to what is commonly considered fruit. It does not apply to the other soft fruit (reproductive part of a plant) like tomatoes, cucumbers and bell peppers which are good in salads. Eating a ripe avocado as the last fruit fills you up with healthy fat so you crave unhealthy fat less. For it to taste great, it must be ripe so it is soft but not mushy.

If you have a sweet tooth it could be because fruit is the healthiest food. So you eat that first. Even a new baby can eat fruit. Eating fruit does not hurt the plant. The sugar in fruit is fructose which has a low glycemic load, meaning the sugar enters the blood very slowly. The faster the sugar enters the blood, the more fattening the food is. The American Diabetes Association has an article that says "Eating Fruit Can Help Keep Weight Off." It was about a study done-- Am J Clin Nutr 80:29-37, 2004.

How do you know that fruits are the healthiest foods? Are there any people who only eat meat and dairy and nothing else? No. Are there any people who eat only vegetables and nothing else? No (vegetarians also eat fruits and grains). Are there any people who only eat grains and nothing else? No. Are there people who eat fruit and nothing else. Yes! There are thousands of fruitarians in the U.S.A. Here is a picture of a long time fruitarian bodybuilder. This guy, Richard Blackman (now Jericho Sunfire) had lots of health problems and they vanished when he became a fruitarian. Food made by nature or God is good for you. Food made by man is designed to make you fat and addicted to food so you will buy as much as possible. Whenever possible get organic produce to avoid eating pesticides.

Then at the beginning of your meal eat a salad first (which is mostly raw). Create one that you like. Eat as much as you want. Now you have filled up on water and fiber which provide no calories since fiber is indigestible. Then you eat your normal meal but you will have less room for it so you want to eat less of it. As far as not harming plants, another type of fruit is hard fruit like nuts, seeds and beans (legumes)-- all fairly high in protein. Foods like chocolate cake has sugar that enters the blood quickly. But if you eat it after a meal with plenty of fiber then it slows down that sugar entering the blood so it is less fattening. Plant foods have fiber. Animal foods have no fiber.

If you do not like salads consider that the cheapest ingredient is iceberg (head) lettuce so that is most of the pre made salad. Instead use romaine lettuce or mixed greens. Other healthy salad ingredients are carrots, celery, cucumber, red cabbage, mushrooms, broccoli, artichoke, cauliflower, bell peppers, red onions, radishes, sunflower seeds and tomatoes. One favorite salad is Cabbage Crunch. Grate or shred green and red cabbage. Add poppy seeds, finely sliced almonds, green onions (scallions), raw apple cider vinegar and cold pressed extra virgin olive oil. Being on the ninja warrior diet means that you should eat to live, not live to eat.

Also for better digestion drink all the fluid you want before the meal and then don't drink anything while eating or for an hour after eating. By drinking at those times you are diluting the powerful digestive acids. If you are having trouble eating without flushing it down with water then chew more and give the food more time to mix with your saliva which helps it to digest. A great salad dressing base is raw apple cider vinegar (not other vinegars), which helps you to lose weight, and cold pressed extra virgin olive oil. You can try adding lemon juice, poppy seeds and avocado. If you can make healthy food taste great, you can be thin and healthy for life with the ninja warrior diet..

You can take enemas (instructions) until you get most of the waste out of the colon and see how much weight you lost and re-measure your waist. Or you can pay to get a colonic. Raw foods keep your intestines clean. All plant foods have plenty of fiber (if it has not been removed) which keeps the colon clean. All animal foods have no fiber at all. So eating animal foods clog up the intestines and so do the refined grains where fiber has been taken out. Fiber (in plant foods) help fill you up but provide no calories since it can't be digested and it helps keep the colon cleaner.

Salt Has No Calories but Can Make You FatLosing Water Weight (This May Be Why You Have Trouble Losing Weight)

Consuming anti-water is just like drinking or consuming less water. But what is anti-water (I made up this term)? If you are dying of dehydration and you come across water that is loaded with bacteria, viruses and parasites that can make you very sick, the water can still save your life. But if it contains enough of this anti-water then it can not help your dehydration at all. With more of this anti-water in it, it will cause you to get more dehydrated if you drink this water. So what is it? Why can't you drink sea water if you are on a raft in the sea and dying of dehydration? It is sodium or the highest source of it-- salt (sodium chloride). Salt has no calories but makes you fatter with water retention. This fatness is not affected by eating less calories or burning more calories.

Sea salt is 98% sodium chloride and 2% trace minerals so it is slightly better than regular salt. The group on Natural Healing page suggests using small amounts of Celtic light grey sea salt. It is only 83% sodium chloride so use that instead of regular salt. Check for it at your health food store or buy online (Celtic Sea Salt, Light Grey, Coarse Ground, 1#). Try using less salt and more granulated kelp (seaweed). It is high in organic sodium and organic trace minerals (see health food store below). Organic is something that is or was alive. Salt (including sea salt) is not a plant or animal and was never alive so it is not a food. It is a chemical or rock (as in rocks and minerals). The iron in spinach is organic while the iron in a nail is inorganic like the sodium (Na) in salt.

Biology teaches that plants create food out of water, air, sunshine and minerals (like salt) and animals consume foods so you should get your minerals from foods. Granulated kelp is supposed to help with weight loss. The organic iodine in it helps the thyroid which helps people lose fat. Kelp changes the salt in sea into food just like plants change minerals in dirt. Arnold Schwarzenegger says thatwater retention is caused by salt, coffee, saccharine and some prescription and over the counter medications.

During the first 5 days of a fast the body dumps huge amounts (up to 80,000 mg per day) of salt so it gets rid of all the excess salt. So this is why someone can lose up to 15 pounds of weight during the first 5 days of a fast. They lose 15 pounds of water. When they start eating a lot of salt they gain it back. If the body continued to lose Na (chemical abbreviation for sodium) after this excess is removed then the person would die after a few more days of fasting due to lack of Na instead of being able to fast a month. But the body no longer needs to get rid of it so the sweat and urine are no longer salty. But due to ignorance, some people think they need to replace this salt since the body is getting rid of it. Sweating helps you lose retained water since you are sweating out excess salt.

The body is working hard to get rid of this salt but has to store the excess under the skin and it has to absorb a lot of water (water retention) so it is not toxic. By the way, the body decides if it needs to keep water or get rid of water based on the sodium concentration according to modern medicine. So when you start eating food with salt again you need to retain all that water again. If you break the fast and don't consume salt you will not gain back that 15 pounds of water.

The biggest problem with the medical community is that even though humans have survived millions of years without their help and the human body has the evolutionary experiential knowledge of billions of years, they think that the human body is stupid. They think that it (the body) urinates and sweats out minerals that it needs. If this were the case people would not be able to fast 5 weeks on only pure water. They think that people need to replace the Na it urinates out. If it does not have excessive amounts of sodium (like people who do not consume salt) then it does not have salty urine and sweat. If you put 4 ounces of salt in water and drink it, the salt will kill you. That is how toxic salt is. This has happened but someone who doubts it can try it.

Note-- the body needs some Na but almost every food contains Na. Like an avocado has 1,400 mg of potassium (K) and 21 mg of Na. The body needs to have a lot more K than Na. The FDA has on their webpage, Healthier Eating (May-June 2005 Issue) a chapter called "Lower Sodium and Increase Potassium." The book, The Rice Diet Solution (©2006) by Kitty Gurkin Rosati R.D. and Robert Rosati M.D.says that in addition to salt causing water retention, it also stimulates the appetite causing people to eat more. Look at the labels on all these man made foods, like Lean Cuisine, and see how much sodium is in them.

Throughout man's history before refrigeration, salt has been important to preserve food by killing the microorganisms that would cause it to rot especially meat and fish. Also with some foods that are fermented, they use the salt to keep the food from going bad until the fermentation kicks in and keeps the food from going bad. People need sodium and chloride but not salt. People who existed over 8.000 years ago have no salt in their skeletons so they never consumed it.

Health expert and author Andrew Weil, MD says on his website "Stabilizing blood sugar by eating [low] glycemic load meals, eating lean protein with healthy fats, drinking plenty of water and having high quantities of fiber from fresh fruits and vegetables all contribute to increased metabolism, which helps the body to burn fat rather than store it." He also says "As far as protein is concerned, eat less meat and poultry, both which contain pro inflammatory fats, and more vegetable protein (soy foods, beans, lentils and other legumes), whole grains, seeds and nuts." Consume less salt for weight loss.

In a book, The Maker's Diet, the author (Jordan Rubin, ND) explains that God would not tell about what meats a person should eat or not eat if we were not supposed to eat meat. But the book, Jane Brody's Nutrition Book (1981), says "God tells Adam in the Garden of Eden about the fruits, nuts, and grains 'to you it shall be for meat.' But it wasn't until the Great Flood had destroyed all vegetation that the Hebrew God gave people permission to eat 'every moving thing that liveth.'" After that God tells about what meats to eat and not to eat. Jane E. Brody was the personal health columnist of the New York Times.

Fat Loss Tips

1. Avoid negative people! They can cause you a lot of stress and even kill you
2. If you are sick or very upset and have little appetite, your body is telling you to take advantage of it and fast and give your digestive system a vacation.
3. Try to minimize stress which includes stress from drastic changes in diet. The federal government's lead agency responsible for biochemical research on nutrition and obesity is the Weight Control Information Network service of the National Institute of Diabetes, Digestion and Kidney Diseases of the NIH. They say that stress causes people to eat more. They suggest people try taking a course in yoga or tai chi to reduce stress.
4. According to the book, Pledged: A Fast Paced Account of a Year Undercover With a Sorority (©2004) by New York Times best-selling author Alexandra Robins, many women in sororities vomit up their food after eating it. Please do not vomit up your food after eating it. Those powerful digestive acids should never, ever touch your throat, mouth or your teeth.  Forced vomiting causes an inflamed sore throat that may bleed, swollen salivary glands in neck, bad tooth decay, gastrointestinal problems and sometimes dangerous electrolytic imbalances that can trigger heart attacks. These acids also destroy the pipes to the toilet. If you have food poisoning or a stomach virus then your stomach does not produce these acids (because your body is brilliant) so vomit it out.
5. Do not use diet or low carb foods or drinks since they contain artificial sweeteners which research shows causes weight gain by increasing craving for food.
6. Losing weight is very difficult if you are drinking beverages with lots of calories. Drink white, green or black tea. To sweeten teas use stevia, honey or agave. Drinking green or white tea is very healthy and will help you to lose weight. They contain EGCG. It is an antioxidant that helps boost metabolism and has many other health benefits. It increased 24 hour thermogenesis (fat burning) in a study published by the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. For more on this and how much to drink see the Health Benefits of Green Tea.
7. Most of the need for food is emotional not physical so the happier you are, the less food you need. If you try to eat healthy foods without making sure that you love the taste of those foods, then you are you are looking to fail. So be an explorer and search for those raw and healthy cooked foods that you love to eat. And you don't have to worry about counting portions or calories for weight loss.
8. Sunbathe when it is warm enough. This does work ! So try it. Otherwise you will suffer needlessly. You could even get depressed (S.A.D.). See this site on Nutrition to see what Kevin Trudeau say about sunlight. It causes you to sweat out a lot of EXCESS salt so you will retain less water. After sunbathing you have sweated those cancer causing chemicals onto your skin (better there than being inside you). So make sure to wash them off your skin. Vitamin D from sunlight helps build muscles and bone. Bodybuilder, Stephen Arlin says that sunbathing produces testosterone which helps builds muscle and burns fat.  The DJ , John Tesh (Intelligence for your Life radio show) says that sunlight produces serotonin causing you to eat less. This is part of theKevin Trudeau weight loss cure protocol from Weight Loss Secrets They Don't Want You to Know About. See below where he says that lack of sunshine causes people to be overweight.
9. Make sure to get all the sleep you need. According to a preview of Women's Health Magazine, lack of sleep "inhibits the production of growth hormones, which in turn can cause weight gain-- especially in the belly." Americans tend to over eat and under sleep. Kevin Trudeau says (in Natural Cures) that lack of sunshine and sleep causes people to become overweight.
10. Do not take birth control pills or any drugs. BC pills work by fooling the body into thinking that it is pregnant. It is normal for pregnant women to gain weight. Say no to drugs (medications)! All have side effects. They kill over 100,000 Americans per year. 40% of them are for the side effects of other drugs. Look at the terrible things that BC pills do by clicking on this article by a female MD--  (www.canfp.org / California Association of Natural Family Planning). Kevin Trudeau says (in Natural Cures) "Drugs only suppress symptoms, and they cause disease because they are toxic."
11. There are a type of supplements that you can take that work very well at helping you to lose weight. I suggest that all people (even thin people) take them. They are the best supplements for general health. There are many from different companies and are very similar so I am not suggesting a certain one. See this site on Greens Drinks to learn more about them and why you should never, ever buy vitamin/mineral supplements.

Last Fat Loss Tip

Use whole grains (like whole wheat and brown rice) instead of refined grains like wheat and rice (white). Wheat (a refined grain) is the major reason that Americans are fat. It is in pancakes, waffles, french toast, cream of wheat, bread, pasta, muffins, biscuits, soft and hard pretzels, cakes, cookies, crackers, donuts, bagels, blintzes, lasagna, sandwiches, burgers, pies, pizza and strombolis. Learn to ENJOY other foods instead of these. Health food stores have items like these made of whole grains better than whole wheat like kamut, spelt (these 2 are ancient relatives of wheat), brown rice or rye. Whole wheat is somewhat bland and heavy compared to refined wheat. See ( Healthy Pasta ) for examples like pasta made with kamut, spinach, beet and carrots. This link is in the Health Food Store link below.The following is done to wheat, but unlike whole wheat, brown rice (a whole grain) tastes as good as white rice (a refined grain). To make the white rice, first they take the rice bran off of the brown rice. This has most of the fiber and anti-oxidants. Then they take off the rice germ which has most of the nutrients. Both of these are sold in health food stores for better elimination, weight loss and nutrition. This leaves the rice endosperm (white rice) which is mostly empty calories and it devastates your body, making you fat, just like refined sugar. A rule of health is that whatever you focus on tends to expand. So do not focus on being fat. Focus on the ninja warrior diet and tell people that you are on it. It is the best for weight loss. Weight loss products. See our privacy policy.